18 May 2013

When my parents passed away, I did not feel like this, because I knew that both of them, my mother particularly, as she talked about it with me often, were ready to go and because I knew they had both lived full lives, and, most importantly, felt themselves that they had lived full lives.
At the moment I behave on the surface as though everything is normal.  But there are days when I feel I just cannot give of myself, that I have nothing to give, I am unable to be the strong one and give a shoulder for someone to lean on;  days when I do not want to see anyone except immediate family.  It is truly true (probably why it's a saying/cliche) 'laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone'.  Many people are uncomfortable with another's sorrow.  I have been guilty of that too at some time.  So one tries hard to be natural and as normal as can be in the interest of the people around you.  But some days it is difficult.  

5 comments:

Ardra said...

Take care,
love, hugs and prayers...
ardra

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Jane Turley said...

It is true what you say, Sue:( After the initial sympathies people are not so good at dealing with another person's grief. I suppose it is just difficult to know what to say, even if you have felt those very same feelings:(

Maybe you could keep an offline journal? Do you think that would help? Writing has always been a great therapy to me:)

Hip Grandma said...

I wish I could suggest something. I have seen my sister grieving for her four year old son who died 28 years ago. She talks of his food preference elephant like memory and what not. You have so much more to remember your son by. As Jane says write about him. It may be therauptic.

hillgrandmom said...

Hip Grandma, Jane, I did try writing a journal, but doing that brings back memories so sharply, it is too painful.