When people are in a good mood, the way they speak is probably the way they would like to be spoken to. But the same people would hate, (and possibly be unable to tolerate) the kind of behaviour that is exhibited by them, when they are angry. Very few folks would be willing to be at the receiving end of the kind of actions done, or of the words spoken by them, when angry. It is particularly hard to put oneself in the other's shoes when angry.
But then again, there is always George Bernard Shaw's version of the Golden Rule-- 'Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you. Their tastes may not be the same'!