I'm sorry that the reason for posting again is not a good one. I heard today about a marriage breaking up and one I did not think would and I felt so heartsick, that I hurt physically.
It made me wonder about the nature of marriage and what do marriages that last and are relatively peaceful have, that makes them go on.
In our days, at least here in India and through the East I think, we felt that marriage was for ever and that one stayed in it come what may. To some extent this attitude was helpful in keeping the marriage craft afloat through turbulences, so that you could get through to more calm waters and better scenery. What do people in the marriage boat have to do to steer their craft safely through shoals, turbulences, whirlpools and without trying to remain stuck at a beautiful scene (because the craft must move on too). To me, one of the most important things would be that there is mutual respect and a gut understanding that both parties in the marriage/relationship are essential for the craft's safe steering (sorry for continuing the analogy, but it seems to fit).
What do you feel--young and not so young?