26 September 2008

This post by Mary Ann over at Desperately Seeking Serenity made me think.  She talks about maybe overdoing the introspection and self-improvement thing.  It so resonated with me.
I realised that I pay way too much attention on self-improvement, on becoming the 'perfect' me.  But then again, a person actually has complete control only over oneself.  There have been times in my life when I have felt that I had no control over many of the happenings in my life.  But I knew that I could always have control over me.
But , I so often wish my mind would be still, without the constant barrage of critical appraisal going on for each of my actions--'That was a dumb thing to do';  'What a stupid thing to say'; 'This is pure drivel' [:(] There are moments of 'That came out good' positive stuff too.   Sometimes I so desperately wish my mind would shut up and let me do something without any appraisal going on.
Anyway, at my age, there is one thing I realise, I have come to a pretty good acceptance of my physical self, which I probably achieved with all the self-talk.  So, in everything there's some good and some bad and moderation is the key I suppose.

5 comments:

  1. It's so easy to be our own worst critic but we can be our very own cheer squad, we just need to turn up the volume for our cheer squad more often*!*

    I'm pleased you had a wonderful time with your daughter and grandson, even if the weather didn't give you the chance to fly the kite - perhaps you could get someone to take your photo doing it and send it to your grandson ... that would give him something to tell his teacher :)

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  2. Thanks both. Bimbimbie, that sounds like a good idea. Maybe i'll get my nephew to do it over the weekend and then send my grandson the pic.

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  3. I think that is one of the greatest pluses of turning 40 - you begin to realise that it is impossible to be perfect or try to change everything about yourself and develop a healthy acceptance of your faults and an appreciation of your merits.
    Yes, there is too much frenzy about being perfect these days and it ia a lot more to do with what is outside that the inner self.

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  4. I agree that moderation is the key. I think that self-improvement is important as long as one remembers that it is all about balance :)

    I am finding some self-improvement books very helpful I must say. I had not read too many before.

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  5. Anonymous12:59 am

    I too have those moments, when I think whether what i said, I should have said or not and when I don't say something I should have said :) And then I go about evaluating myself a lot! It reaches a dead end!!

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